I have considered writing a blog for some time now, but have been hesitant for many reasons. The first reason being, I really don’t like Blogs…lol. It feels like anyone can just put thoughts on a website, and they are suddenly an authority on something. It’s a little narcissistic. I also feel like I am still learning and growing both personally as a parent, as well as a pastor of families at RCC.
Additionally, there is an endless supply of differing opinions and perspectives on parenting – even within the Christian community. Sharing my thoughts may confuse or even offend others from a different parenting “style” or paradigm. Nevertheless, I have felt the Lord moving my heart to put a few things into words that I believe He has been showing me. I do welcome any thoughts or feedback, as we are a family together trying to raise our own families into the destiny the Lord has for them.
In my opinion, my main “job” as a parent is to accurately reflect the love, attributes, and nature of the Father, God. When I speak, when I listen, when I show affection, and when I discipline my two boys, I desire to reflect God in my actions and words. I so desire that my sons will see Jesus in both myself and my wife. I pray that when the day comes when they can receive Jesus, they will have seen and felt accurately what God’s love is like through us.
That’s really it – we have our kids for a short season. We are given a chance to show them God, so that He can then lead them their entire lives. We partner with the Holy Spirit to listen to His insights into our children – their giftings, passions, and struggles. We co-labor with God to give our children a foundation that He will build upon. Yes, we are called to support them, feed them, protect them, etc. But the primary purpose of all this is to reflect Him and enable our kids to walk in His ways.
In other words, we are SHEPHERDS. We have the privilege of hearing God’s heart for our kids, and shepherding them into that destiny. What an honor, what a calling, what a sacrifice! Jesus said, “I am the good shepherd; I know my own sheep, and they know me, just as my Father knows me and I know the Father. So I lay down my life for the sheep.” (Jn. 10:14-15).
More on this next time…