Identity: The Most Important Thing


"Sticks and stones will break your bones.  But words will never hurt you." It’s the greatest lie ever told, and perhaps, the most famous.

Do you ever wonder the effect the words have on our children? When was the last time you said something to your kids and the moment it left your mouth, you’d have done anything to suck it back in? Then your mind races back to millions of conversations and the questions mount.

“Have my words helped or hurt?”

“Now what do I say?”

“What is the most important thing for my child to know?”

God speaks… “The most important thing is they are who I say they are.”

A few weeks ago I met a mom and her 3 young children while picking up kids from a local neighborhood to bring to church. She wanted her kids to come also. I handed over 3 permission slips and listened to them pester her as she tried to navigate the insurance part of the form. Her kids were pestering her while the “church lady” was standing there and she was doing her level best not to completely snap.

I went back the next week to hear the mom died two days before. The neighborhood kids were quick to fill me in.

“Her kids stressed her out so bad, she had a heart attack. I don’t know who got custody, but they're gone now.”

You were the cause of your mother’s death.

Will those words be written on their hearts forever?

You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts. — 2 Corinthians 3:3 

The Holy Spirit wants to write on our children’s hearts. He wants to write grace and truth and the great love of the Father on hearts. The Father wants to wrap their hearts in His love. He wants them to know there is nothing in all creation that can separate them from His love that is in Christ Jesus.

We play a part in writing His words. Until our children learn to hear His voice for themselves, we must be His voice.

We must speak His truth and show His grace. We must listen as He tells us who they are in the quiet of the night and in the chaos. We can know what He sees when He looks at them. We will tell them.

We will tell them until they can look in the mirror and tell themselves…

 I am the son of the King.

I am the daughter of the King.

I am beautiful.

I am powerful.

I am forgiven.

I have a great future.