Resources for Loving Across Boundaries

Over the last few weeks at River City Church we have been discussing relationships and boundaries.

In the first talk David Gate challenged us to think through what it means to live under the lordship of Jesus Christ. If He truly is our King, are we willing to yield to Him? Even when it means we will have to make sacrifices? Even if we don’t understand, or we disagree? 

It comes down to trusting who is best at knowing what we need and trusting where life to the full is found. 

The second week I talked about why we should trust Jesus. He is the author and creator of life, and has purchased us with His life. 

If we really trust Him, we have to trust what He says in His Word about relationships, sex and intimacy with others. Even though we have been given a new heart as a believer that is good, we can still be deceived by our emotions and feelings. 

In Ephesians, Paul talks clearly about why it is important to be grounded in God’s truth that is communicated in love. Our desire is to grow up “to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ”. This can only come by living by the boundaries God has set for us in His Word. 

These boundaries are not rules intended to make life boring, but rather to protect us from “playing in mine fields” that take life away. 

Last week, we spoke about individuals within the church who are attracted to the same sex. Ultimately, our response as the church has to be love. 

If we want to be a church that people with same-sex attraction will want be a part of, we have to be welcoming and loving. We must also value our single members by actively loving them and sharing our lives with them. 

I have recently read and listened to several books, articles, blogs, sermons, podcasts and interviews on this topic. Here are a few that have helped me in my understanding of people who have same-sex attraction and some of their unique struggles:

Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill

What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality? by Kevin DeYoung

Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry

The Bible and Same Sex Relationships by Timothy Keller

This journey of learning for me has been an emotional roller coaster. I want to thank the members of our church who have same-sex attraction who have trusted me by sharing parts of their story and life with me. I am thankful that River City Church is your home and that we are brothers and sisters in Christ. Your courage in sharing your story has made me a better pastor and a more compassionate and loving person.